Let’s face it- We all want others to like us. The truth is, however, that not everyone is going to like you, approve of you, accept you or celebrate you. They may just totally reject you. It’s just life. How we handle rejection is very important.
There’s not a person on this earth that hasn’t struggled with the issue of rejection. Rejection has many layers. It can be as simple as being left out of someone’s plans or it could be an ongoing rejection that no matter what you try to do to be a part of someone’s life, they shut the door in your face over and over. They refuse to respond and their refusal to respond causes you to feel rejected. We must remember that often times when someone rejects you, it has nothing to do with you but with their own hurt issues. When someone has been hurt, so many times they build walls around themselves to protect their own self from being hurt again. Sometimes we just have to change our thinking- their rejection of me is not my problem-it’s their problem.
You may be reading this today and your spouse has rejected you. Perhaps your family has rejected you. Perhaps it is close family members such as children that have rejected you. Perhaps someone in your church has rejected you. Perhaps someone in your workplace has rejected you. Perhaps you are going through a divorce and you feel that everyone is rejecting you. Perhaps you are divorced and remarried and your new spouse’s family rejects you. Perhaps you are simply being excluded by others and their plans. If these scenarios do not apply to you, I am sure you can make your own sentence up. The point is that we have all felt rejected at one time or another in our life.
Regardless of the reason for the rejection, we must guard our hearts continually against rejection. Rejection causes us to feel all alone as if no one loves us.
I know someone else who was often rejected and his name is Jesus. Jesus was rejected throughout his entire life. He was even rejected by “religious” people. At one point, he was even rejected by those in his “inner circle.” He was rejected to the point of death. We must remember that Jesus came to this earth not only to die for our sins but also to identify with everything that we will ever go through this life. He suffered rejection over and over again so He knows just how you feel and you are not alone in your situation.
There is One who has already been there and He will never leave you alone nor will He ever reject you. Run to the One who understands your pain. Run to the One that will heal your hurts. Run to the One that will never reject you. Run to Jesus.
We must never look to others to determine our worth and value. We cannot base on our identity on whether others approve of or reject us. Our identity must be based on what God says about us. Here’s just a few things He says about you:
I am God’s child.-Galatians 3:26
I am Jesus’ friend.-John 15:15
I am a whole new person with a whole new life.-2 Corinthians 5:17
I am a place where God’s Spirit lives.-1 Corinthians 6:19
I am God’s Incredible work of art.-Ephesians 2:10
I am totally and completely forgiven.-1 John 1:9
I am created In God’s likeness.-Ephesians 4:24
I am spiritually alive.-Ephesians 2:5
I am a citizen of Heaven.-Philippians 3:20
I am God’s messenger to the world.-Acts 1:8
I am God’s disciple-maker.-Matthew 28:19
I am the salt of the earth.-Matthew 5:13
I am the light of the world.-Matthew 5:14
I am greatly loved.-Romans 5:8
There’s so much more in the Bible that God says about you!
If you are feeling rejected today, dig into the Word of God find out what God says about you. He is the One that really matters.
One last thing–begin to pray for that person that has rejected you. Pray that God would open their eyes and their hearts so that their own hurts can be healed. Pray blessings over them and love them unconditionally the way your Heavenly Father loves you.
“He was despised and rejected by men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief; and as one from whom men hide their faces he was despised, and we esteemed him not” (Is. 53:3, ESV).
“He has said, ‘I will never leave you nor forsake you'” (Heb. 13:5).