We were singing a song in church last week about returning to our first love. I haven’t been able to get those words out of my mind. I looked up the scripture in Revelation 2:4 “But I have this [one charge to make] against you: that you have left (abandoned) the love that you had at first [you have deserted Me, your first love].”
I began to think about “first love.” Remember when you first fell in love with your spouse? You thought about him or her every moment. You couldn’t wait to see that person and you ran to the phone every time the phone rang hoping it was them. Your heart began to race whenever you saw them. You found yourself daydreaming about the last time you were together or about the next time you would be together. Suddenly, you became very creative with the hours in your day making time for the one you love. You made excuses to get to see them for just a moment. You were always planning something special to make memories. Hopefully, none of that stopped whenever you got married but to many people, that newness and excitement wears off and they settle into married life and become complacent in their marriage and they forget the need to continue to date and keep their relationship fresh and anew. If one is not careful, marriage becomes routine and you just go through the motions out of the commitment of marriage and you end up with two very separate lives under one roof. You forget what it was like when you first fell in love. Sometimes our relationship with the Lord can be the same way. We just go through the motions because of our commitment as “Christians” and lose that zeal and fervency for the Lord. We should never become complacent in our marriage and we should never become complacent in a relationship with the Lord.
What are some signs that you have lost your first love?
1) Has something or someone taken that position in your life? Anything that we put before God is an idol. He must be first. Jesus tells us in Mark 12:30 “And you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength.”
2) Have you lost the desire to worship and spend time with the Lord and fellowship and pray and spend time in the Word? This is how our relationship with our spouse deepens- by spending time with them. When you spend time with someone, you begin to know their thoughts and their desires. It’s the same way with the Lord. When we spend time with the Lord through worship and prayer and studying the Word, relationship with Him deepens. The enemy despises the time that you spend with the Lord and goes to extremes to make sure that is interrupted and and time with the Lord becomes less and less priority in our lives.
3) Do you find that your thoughts towards the Lord are not what they used to be or as often or your thoughts do not honor the Lord? Philippians 4:8 says “Whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” The word of God says that we are to pray without ceasing. (1 Thess. 5:16-18) That really means to always be an attitude of prayer– that He is always on our mind thru our day and that we are to continually meditate on the things of God. We are to let praise continually be in our mouth. (Ps. 34:1) In the busyness of life, we must guard our thoughts so that we keep Christ in the center of those thoughts.
If you find yourself making excuses for your actions or lack of action or your disobedience to the things of God, that’s a sure sign you need to return to your first love.
5) Do you find that your “get to” has become a “have to”? God wants us to be cheerful givers and not just with her money but with our time and our love and our compassion, etc. Colossians 3:23 says that “Whatever may be your task, work at it heartily (from the soul), as (something done) for the Lord and not for men.” The enemy wants to steal that attitude of we get to do this for the Lord or as unto the Lord until it becomes I have to go to church or I have to do this, etc. We must return to the whys we serve-to please God and not man.
These are just a few ways recognize the symptoms of losing your first love. If you have the symptoms, the good news is they God is waiting for you to return to your first love.
Simply repent and ask him to return to you the joy of your salvation.
Prayer for today: Father God, I repent for becoming complacent in my love for you. I repent for not putting you first in my life. Forgive me for putting other things before you. God, I ask you to show me how to re-prioritize things in my life. Show me the things I need to let go of and release in order to have that intimate time with you and to draw closer to you. Father God, show me the things that have become a hindrance in my life and those things that are not pleasing to you. Father God, I ask you to restore to me the joy of my salvation and help me in my obedience to you. Create in me a clean heart. In Jesus name I pray. Amen!