SOUL TIES 1Although you don’t see the word “soul ties” in the Bible, there is plenty to be said about soul ties. The Bible talks about becoming one flesh.   Soul ties tie two souls together in the spirit realm. One type of soul ties is sexual soul ties. Soul ties are formed when a couple are married (Ephesians 5:31, “For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.”). This would mean then that when two people come together who are not married, ungodly soul ties are formed.  This ungodly soul tie fragments the soul and is destructive.  This is why people (and not just teenagers) who are sexually active have such a difficult time breaking away from their boyfriend or girlfriend. They have ungodly soul ties with the other person in the spirit realm. This is why you may see one that is controlled, manipulated or abused that stays with their boyfriend or girlfriend … there is an ungodly soul tie with that person that hasn’t been broken. Any sexual relationship outside of marriage creates those ungodly soul ties and must be broken. There are also married people who need to break ungodly soul ties from past relationships. Fornication is a very common way to create a soul tie. If a person has more Soulties-608x342than one sexual partner, then they have  ungodly soul ties with multiple people.  In essence, you now have ungodly ties with those that they have ties with although you didn’t literally have relations with all those other people.   Their soul is further fragmented and divided with multiple people. This picture is a great illustration of what happens in the spirit realm.

This is not God’s design for you either physically or spiritually. These soul ties will destroy and must be broken.   If this is you, repent of your sin and run the other  way. Get rid of the gifts, etc. that remind you of that person.  Renounce any commitment you made to this person. (I’ll love you forever, etc.) Forgive them of any wrongs toward you. Then renounce and break the ungodly soul tie verbally and in Jesus name. Example, “In Jesus’ name, I now renounce any ungodly soul ties formed between myself and ______ as a result of _______________ (fornication, etc.).” Then break  the soul tie in Jesus’ name! Do this verbally using your authority in Jesus. Example, “I now break and sever any ungodly soul ties formed between myself and _________ as a result of ______________ (fornication, etc.) in Jesus’ name.”

soul-tiesThis word is not to condemn but to bring freedom to those who might find themselves in this situation. Breaking ungodly soul ties are vital to your spiritual freedom.  I know this is plain talk but its vital!


Girls…teenagers…ladies…single women… married women…

We can cause men to have lustful thoughts by the things we wear or don’t wear.  Some men think that if we are willing to show it then we might be willing to share it.  I am not just talking to teenage girls but to all women, younger or older, single or married. We have a responsibility to dress pleasing to our Heavenly Father. This sounds really elementary but I learned years ago to do the “raise and praise test” in the dressing room. If I raise my hands to The Lord and certain things show, I am not buying it. If I bend over and certain things show, I am not buying it.  God did not create us to cause others to have lustful thoughts when we walk into a room because of the way we are dressed. I love the ESV version of 1 Corinthians 12:23 “And on those parts of the body that we think less honorable we bestow the greater honor, and our unpresentable parts are treated with greater modesty,” Modest really is hottest and is pleasing to God.

As Christians, we are ambassadors of the King. Think about royalty and what that means. I think of honor and respect when I think of royalty. As a Christian woman, I think of my position in Christ and the fact that I am His ambassador. When I get dressed, how am I representing the King of Kings when I leave my house?

modest is hottest Is my outfit appropriate? Is everything covered? How do my clothes conform to my body? Are they too tight? Are they too revealing? Will it be a distraction? Will it cause others to lust? Now I know you can’t control others but ladies, you know what I’m talking about. Think of it this way, when you are talking to others, are they going to have direct eye contact with you or will their eyes automatically go to what you are wearing and will their eyes stay there? Will they struggle to hear what you are saying because they are so distracted by your outfit?  If I am speaking to you and your eyes keep going to what I am wearing, then my clothing might be a distraction. Let’s remember when we get dressed that we are ambassadors and represent Jesus wherever we go. I want what I say to be remembered, not what I wore to be remembered.

Come on ladies, let’s make our wardrobe pleasing to God! We can do this!

1 Peter 3:3-4 “It is not fancy hair, gold jewelry, or fine clothes that should make you beautiful.  No, your beauty should come from within you—the beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit that will never be destroyed and is very precious to God.”

1 Corinthians 12:23 “And the parts we regard as less honorable are those we clothe with the greatest care. So we carefully protect those parts that should not be seen,”

1 Corinthians 6:19-20 “Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.”

Matthew 5:28 “But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”



Plain talk for young people…. Purity

The enemy will strategically send those people into your life to steal your purity. Satan hates your purity and we know the thief comes to steal, kill and destroy, even your purity. He will send the “experienced” boy or girl into your life and very subtly the enemy will use them to chisel away at you little by little and to make those boundaries become a little more gray.  The enemy uses flattery and words like I love you, you are the only one for me, you know I respect you, if you really loved me…. The enemy has no new tricks and has used those lines for centuries to deceive. One may think but I am  different and I can change them but we are not the Holy Spirit.  It is God that changes. As young people, it is vital to protect our purity by seeking God about who we “spend time with”, and who our partner in life will be. A young person must be bold in their faith and in their stand on purity and not waver. Don’t put yourself in compromising situations that leaves the door open to cross God’s boundaries for you and give in to temptation. Be aware the enemy will send thieves to steal what God has reserved for marriage.